Family therapy and EFFT (Emotionally Focused Family therapy) For problems between children, or children and their parents, I offer Emotionally Focused Family Therapy (EFFT), a structured family systems approach that focuses on the relationship, communication and connection between family members.
Family therapy / Emotionally Focused Family Therapy is a structured, systematic, and process-oriented approach in which the following steps are essential. 1) The therapist helps the family members to recognize the specific family interaction pattern within which conflicts arise and stop this. The family interaction concerns the reactions of family members to each other that are driven by emotions. When family members recognize these emotions in themselves, they gain more control over their reactions. This changes the family dynamics. Slower interaction can then occur, and the atmosphere becomes emotionally safer, making it possible to speak more quietly and consciously and also to listen to each other. If family members can do this together, this change in interaction amplifies.
2) In the emotionally safe environment that subsequently arises, family members can share what their feelings and experiences are and reach out. The family therapist facilitates them with this.
3) Parents get support from the family therapist to strengthen their care role and their alliance.
4) The change in the family interaction pattern eventually leads to more understanding, acceptance, and connection with each other. It is now also possible to reach agreements, solutions, and compromises.
Family therapy can be helpful for family members of all ages. As the family members are older and more independent, the emphasis is less on the role of care and more on equality.
New: Hold Me Tight/Let Me Go workshop for parents and teens This unique workshop was developed by psychologists and EFT therapists Drs Paul and Nancy Aikin in California and is intended for teenagers aged 13 to 19 with their parents. It moves relationships between parents and teens from distress toward comfort, understanding, and connection. With the help of exercises, structured parent/teen conversations, and group support, families will grow an appreciation for how to rely on each other when Hold Me Tight is accompanied by Let Me Go during this critical transitional stage of family life.
The workshop aims to improve the contact, understanding, and emotional connection between parents and their teenager in 5 steps. The approach is systematic and structured, but also playful and positive. It is not a therapy. Teenagers usually enjoy participating. The first workshop is scheduled for August. It remains to be decided whether it will be in person or online.
For more information or to schedule a session you can call me at +34-646051435, email me at email@example.com. or use the contact form.
Watch this video of fellow family therapists giving the workshop in Norway, with English subtitles: