Over time a romantic relationship can encounter all kinds of challenges such as:
One partner might like to do things together while the other partner wants more time alone.
One partner would like to have more intimacy while the other partner does not.
There may be some communication problems.
The couple may have moved to another country and this leads to stress in the relationship (expat problems).
One of the partners might have doubts continuing the relationship and/or have another relationship.
A physical or psychological illness may have taken its toll on the relationship.
There may be a lot of conflict.
Partners may have grown apart.
Occasional conflicts or discussions are a normal, natural part of intimate relationships and usually not a problem as long as we are able to repair them and feel good about each other again. Not being able to address problems and talk them through in a constructive manner can lead to conflict and challenge the emotional bond between the partners, which in turn can lead to feelings of stress, anxiety, depression and loneliness.
I have a variety of approaches to addressing the specific problems facing each couple. These vary in the balance between psycho-education, where couples are guided through the problem-solving process, and direct therapy, in which I directly facilitate resolving your issues. The approaches also vary in level of intensity. The optimal approach varies by situation.
Do you want to repair or enhance your relationship? Decrease conflict, increase contact Through private and confidential therapy sessions you both can address your problems. It is important to be in an emotionally safe environment where you both have the opportunity to tell your own story. Talking about your feelings and experiences will help you understand yourself and each other better. The focus of treatment will be on the dynamic in your relationship. In this process you will learn to get your conflicts under control and repair them which will lead to emotional safety in your relationship. This will enable you to share your feelings and important issues with each other and solve your problems together.
Repairing your emotional connection We will work on repairing ruptures in your relationship and reconnecting together. Emotional safety and trust will be regained. Your relationship will become a place for bonding and love again.
More specific: I can help you with:
learning to get your disputes under control
communicating more clearly with each other and be more flexible with problem solving
understanding yourselves and each other better
learning to be more open about your feelings and experience
learning to ask for support in such a way each partner is able to hear it
be more attuned to each other
deepen your love and connection
Ialsohave helped couples cope with specific issues, for example:
mental illness like depression or anxiety
addiction (porn-addiction, substance abuse)
Long distance relationships
problems with children or parents
infertility problems, ivf
loss of familymembers
One of the treatments offered is Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT). EFT has been extensively researched and has shown to produce good results, especially for couples.
It's important that you feel safe and comfortable during the sessions. I would like to encourage you to first have a free phone call or online session (30-45 min.) with me before you decide.