Moving to Spain certainly has a lot of advantages but can also lead to major changes for which partners are not always prepared and which may have a major impact on their relationship. While being subject to isolation because of the change in environment one becomes more vulnerable. Not being able to address the problems and talk them through in a constructive manner can lead to conflict and challenge the emotional bond between the partners, which in turn can lead to feelings of stress, anxiety, depression and loneliness.
The evidence-based couples therapy I provide focuses on getting your conflicts under control and repairing your mutual feelings of connection. From that position you will be able to address important issues together.
Do you want to repair or enhance your relationship? Decrease conflict, increase contact Through private and confidential therapy sessions you both can address your problems. It is important to be in an emotionally safe environment where you both have the opportunity to tell your own story. Talking about your feelings and experiences will help you understand yourself and each other better. The focus of treatment will be on the dynamic in your relationship. You will learn to get your conflicts under control and create emotional safety together.
Repairing your emotional connection We will work on repairing ruptures in your relationship and reconnecting together. Emotional safety and trust will be regained. Your relationship will become a place for bonding and love again.
Options I have a variety of approaches to addressing the specific problems facing each couple. These vary in the balance between psycho-education, where couples are guided through the problem-solving process, and direct therapy, in which I directly facilitate resolving your issues. The approaches also vary in level of intensity. The optimal approach varies by situation. Please feel free to consult me on what is the best option for you: send me an email: firstname.lastname@example.org or give me a call; +34 646051435
More specific: I can help you with:
learning to get your disputes under control
communicating more clearly with each other and be more flexible with problem solving
understanding yourselves and each other better
learning to be more open about your feelings and experience
learning to ask for support in such a way each partner is able to hear it
be more attuned to each other
deepen your love and connection
Ialsohave helped couples cope with specific issues, for example:
mental illness like depression or anxiety
addiction (porn-addiction, substance abuse)
Long distance relationships
problems with children or parents
infertility problems, ivf
loss of familymembers
One of the treatments offered is Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT). EFT has been extensively researched and has shown to produce good results, especially for couples.
What is Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)? For the previous three decades, psychologists and couples therapists made the basic assumption that partners shouldn't depend on each other too much, and needed to first be strong individually as a prerequisite to having a good love relationship. In contrast, EFT is based on "a new science of love" which recognizes that love/attachment relationships are essential to us as humans. Partners are attached to each other and therefore naturally depend on each other. This different way of looking at couples relationships is supported by neurological research.
EFT was developed by Dr Sue Johnson, psychotherapist and professor (now emeritus) at the University of Ottawa. It is a structured and process-oriented approach to couples therapy. EFT helps couples to get their disputes under control and create safety in their relationship, making it possible to enhance or repair their emotional bond. It has been extensively researched and consistently shown to produce good results for the last 15 years. Studies find that more than 7 out of 10 couples treated with EFT move from distress to recovery and approximately 9 out of 10 show significant improvements. Its outstanding success has been heralded in many scientific journals, professional magazines and media such as the New York Times and Psychology Today.
Watch Dr. Sue Johnson talk about EFT:
Drs Suzy Quix MSc. Psychologist/ Psychotherapist, Certified Couples and Familytherapist. Certified Emotionally Focused Couples Therapist and Supervisor. Speaking English & Dutch.