Not sure if you want to stay married or in your relationship? Discernment counseling is a course of a maximum of 5 sessions to clarify this and make a decision. These conversations are structured with targeted, specific questions and take place both individually and together. This approach's special thing is that it stimulates clear thinking in a situation that evokes strong emotions for many people and is often confusing, making it difficult to come to a good decision. The method is developed by Dr. Bill Doherty, an American psychotherapist and relationship therapist with many years of experience. Discerment counseling can take place both online and in person.
DISCERNMENT COUNSELING FOR COUPLES ON THE BRINK If you or your spouse are considering divorce but are not completely sure that’s the best path, you are in a tough spot. And Discernment Counselling is designed for you. It’s a chance to slow down, take a breath, and look at your options for your marriage. Discernment Counselling is a new way of helping couples where one person is “leaning out” of the relationship—and not sure that regular marriage counseling would help--and the other is “leaning in”--that is, interested in rebuilding the marriage.
How can I help you? I will help you decide whether to try to restore your marriage to health, move toward divorce, or take a time out and decide later. The goal is for you to gain clarity and confidence about a direction, based on a deeper understanding of your relationship and its possibilities for the future. The goal is not to solve your marital problems but to see if they are solvable. You will each be treated with compassion and respect no matter how you are feeling about your marriage at the moment. No bad guys and good guys. You will come in as a couple but the most important work occurs in the one-to-one conversations with the counselor. Why? Because you are starting out in different places. I will respect your reasons for divorce while trying to open up the possibility of restoring the marriage to health. I will emphasize the importance of each of you seeing your own contributions to the problems and the possible solutions. This will be useful in future relationships even if this one ends.
Recommended for "leaning in" partners.
Number of Sessions: A maximum of five counselling sessions. The first session is usually two hours and the subsequent are 1.5 or 2 hours. Discernment Counselling isnotsuited for these situations: • When one spouse has already made a final decision to divorce • When one spouse is coercing the other to participate • When there is danger of domestic violence