Having to stay at home every day is not fun, but you can make the best of it together. How?
1. Don’t let your anxiety contaminate your relationship
Corona is contagious; stress is, too. You may be anxious, stressed, and confused about job loss and other insecurity, which is entirely reasonable and understandable. Try to accept these feelings, but don’t let these “contaminate” your relationship. Do not live these feelings out to your partner in ways such as shouting at him or her. Don't withdraw either. If you feel anxious, try to keep in touch with your partner and share the fears you feel with him or her in the calmest way possible. Ask your partner for help if you need it.
2. Give each other the space you need
If your partner needs to be on his or her own for a while, leave him or her alone. People have different ways of dealing with stress. Some seek more contact and connection while others need to have some alone time so that their nervous system can recover from all stimuli. Agree on when you will be together again.
3. Offer support to your partner
Check-in regularly with each other on how you are doing. If you notice that your partner is tense, try to remain calm and say something like: I have the feeling that you are nervous, am I right? And if your partner confirms this, you may ask: Do you want to talk about it or can I help you in another way?
4. Be sensitive to your partner's sensitivities
Even though you may feel stressed yourself, try to take into account what triggers your partner off. Express regret if you accidentally said something wrong or if you notice that your partner has been upset in some other way by what you have done.
5. Less affection doesn’t necessarily mean less love
If you feel diminished affection or attention coming from your partner, be aware that the situation may be so overwhelming for him or her that he or she is not able to show his or her love for you. Once he or she relaxes, feelings of love will have a chance again. This may also apply to you, of course.
6. It is also a chance to become more connected
Take the opportunity to make something meaningful from this time and to be extra kind to your partner. Try to make being at home more pleasant. Make it cozy. Do something that's fun and gets you both in a better mood. Play board games, listen to music together, watch a beautiful movie or a good comedy. Or cook together and try a new recipe. You can even choose to do an online relationship game, talk about your relationship, or have more physical intimacy. You may also ask each other: what do you need most from me? It can be a kiss or hug, but also practical help.
Which tip helps you best? Or do you have an excellent suggestion to add? Please mention it in the comments.
Take care & stay healthy
To be continued..